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Miscarriages in pub toilets. Is gender?

A quarter of pregnancies miscarry, and most miscarriages happen in public toilets. We wouldn’t need those safer spaces if the world outside the Ladies’ was fully accepting of women’s right to privacy & dignity, of our desire not to be stalked and groped, of our naturally unpolished looks and our hormonally-active bodies. But it isn’t. If we’re to be forced into sharing with males, they’re going to have to wise up and shut up. Read this: Miscarriages in pub toilets. Is gender?

Everyday sexual assaults - one woman's timeline

#MeToo – One woman’s lifetime in everyday sexual assaults. There have been too many to count, so these are some that stuck in my mind. There’s nothing special about me: all women suffer everyday sexual assaults, and many get it far worse. This isn’t inevitable – men can be better; plenty of men are. I try to figure out why so many men are predators, and how women are trained to put up with it. (Medium-long read, with lots of pictures.) Read this: Everyday sexual assaults – one woman’s timeline

Scooting through 500 years of British male fashion in search of a reason why men shouldn’t wear lace pants. Social conventions are so powerful, it’s easy to see why most people just accept them, thinking something’s wrong when they don’t fit the expected gender box. Yet it’s all rubbish. Gender varies hugely by country, tradition and by era; this proves it isn’t some kind of natural law. It’s simply that we are taught our culture’s gender rules from the moment we’re born. Read this: If a masculine man wears feminine clothes, does he change gender or does the outfit?